Sam Smith has a new boyfriend, and he never once had to swipe right.
This week, the openly-gay singer gave his unfiltered opinion about using dating apps like Tinder and Grindr when he was single.
“No offence to people who go on Tinder but I just feel like it’s ruining romance. We’re losing the art of conversation and being able to go and speak to people and you’re swiping people,” he told MetroUK.
He went on to call the dating apps a superficial way of connecting with someone, and that being attractive plays a very important role.
“From my experience the most beautiful people I’ve been on dates with are the dumbest, so why would I swipe people who are ‘unattractive’ when I could potentially fall in love with them? Stop Tinder and Grindr!”
Does his opinion come as a surprise? I mean, this is the guy who sings:
Guess it’s true, I’m not good at a one-night stand
But I still need love ’cause I’m just a man
These nights never seem to go to plan
I don’t want you to leave, will you hold my hand?
It’s safe to say that everything about Sam Smith — from his tunes, to his wardrobe, to his dating habits — may be a little old-fashioned. And he makes a good point about the frustration that one may experience in the fast-paced world of online dating.
However, Sam may be overestimating the value of Tinder and Grindr. The apps offer different things to different people: one-night stands, cuddle buddies, job leads. It’s all how you approach it. Although yes, the number of shirtless guys and self-centered bios may deter someone from believing in true love at first swipe. But guess what Sam Smith, those self-centered, superficial guys exist in real-life too. And it’s even harder to spot them at a crowded bar. At least on Tinder and Grindr, those people are clearly self-identified as a non-match.
If you’re looking to make a quality connection, Tinder and Grindr work best as a never-ending resource to finding potential dates. Keep swiping, keep loading and go on as many dates as quickly as possible. You won’t know if there it’s a real match unless you meet in real life. That’s what dating is all about. It’s frustrating, it get’s old, you may get bitter. But that’s not Tinder or Grindr’s fault.
Online or in real-life, it’s just as difficult to find love and every landscape can be just as hopeless a place. It’s more than likely then that for Sam Smith his recent rocket to fame may had leverage his chances.